In today's episode of the UNCAPING, UNMASKING, and UNHIDING series, Shirl and Natty take look at Annalise's lack of emotional safety and the situational or childhood trauma that contributed it to thereby leading her in manipulative and controlling behavior. A few things they explored in this conversation were the varying circumstances that causes feelings of lack of security and safety, how most don't recognize they're engaging in manipulative or performative behavior and how challenging it can be to change the behavior. Tap in to this episode to hear their thoughts and when you're finished, share your thoughts with us in the Shades of Strong Facebook Community. Our Facebook community is a safe space where you can connect with other Black women and have open and honest discussions about things that concern us individually and collectively. This is a safe space where we can lean on each other in times of trouble and unrest, and dance with each other in times of celebration. If you find yourself in this or previous episodes, and are ready to start your journey to healing, please consider joining us in the Sista Circle of Healing. The next cohort starts November 9th. Other Episodes in This 30 - Day Series Day 10 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhidng |The Fight Trauma Response & Cookie Lyon Day 9 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding |The Ride or Die That is Cookie Lyon Day 8 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding, |Is Cookie Lyon an Angry Black Woman Day 7 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding, |Kick People Pleasing to the Curb Day 6 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding | Ten Whole Years of People Pleasing DAY 5 People Pleasing A Harmless Act of Love or a Mental Health Risk? Day 4 Uncaping Unmasking Unhiding | Why We Become People Pleasers Day 3 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding |The Side Effects of the Black Superwoman Syndrome Day 2 Uncaping, Unmasking, Unhiding | When Love Becomes Kryptonite Day 1 -- Uncaping, Unmasking, and Unhiding the Strong Black Superwoman Superwoman Must Die | Slaying the Strong Black Woman Syndrome Superwoman Quiz Are you a perfectionist, master performer, people pleaser, or people prover? Take this 4 minute quiz & get a breakdown of your superwoman archetype & how you can use this knowledge to start healing from the Strong Black Superwoman Syndrome.